Keep your snot to yourself, please.

Look, there’s just no way around it: it’s a bad flu year. And flu sucks, right? But it’s preventable!

Do YOU know the single most effective way to avoid getting the flu?

That’s right. Wash your hands.

Okay, the CDC maybe hasn’t mastered the art of the entertaining public health message. But the Maine Medical Association has:

Hey, while we’re talking about it, get the vaccine too – it helps prevent flu, but mostly it helps protect your community.

Other effective prevention strategies include getting enough sleep (7-9 hours per night – and if you think you can’t afford to spend that much time sleeping, just think how much time you’d waste having the flu!), eating lots of dark green leafy vegetables, and getting some exercise.

Also, avoid licking people who have the flu. I know it’s not always possible, but… try.

condom cartoon! and a sneaky trick

Why is everything so much more fun to learn about when it comes in the form of a cartoon? i don’t know, but here ya go! Condom use error prevention!

I would only add this sneaky tricky trick:

Before throwing away the condom, tie a knot in the end to help prevent, uh, spillage.

Super-useful.

Interviews about Relationships- Anonymous

Define what you consider a Smith hookup.

Sleeping with a Smithie one or more times without having any commitment to them or defining the relationship.

What are the good things about Smith hookups?
They are fun.  Plentiful.  No strings attached.  Practical, like close distance wise. You don’t have to travel; the furthest walk is like, to the Quad.  People like to talk about their feelings so it is easy to communicate.  Usually I am just friends with them afterwards and things aren’t awkward. And then you have a more intimate friendship.  That’s only usually.

What are the not-so-good things about Smith hookups?

Everyone knows everyone’s business.  People judge you for who you have hooked up with and make assumptions about you for it.  Some play it as a game “how many people can I hook up with?” If it’s awkward and you don’t talk to them afterwards you will see that person everywhere. Absolutely everywhere.  Smithies have a lot of feelings [makes crazy eyes].

What are some ways you can maximize the good things and minimize the not-so-good things?

Choosing who you hook up with wisely.  Not judging others or making assumptions about others based on what they do in bed and with whom they choose to do it with.  Having fun with it and not treating things like hookups too seriously.

Interviews About How to Manage Stress- Amelia Burke

Amelia Burke Talbot House Class of 2015

 

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Academic Interests:

Middle Eastern Studies and Arabic, History, Environmental Science, Music.

H: What is your favorite class that you are taking this semester?

A: Writing Essays New Yorker Style

Extracurriculars:

Treasurer for Smith Students for Justice in Palestine, House Community Advisor in Talbot, member of Smith STAND.

H: What stresses you out?

A: When the people I depend on like professors are disorganized or unclear or when people say that one time is good and then they don’t show last minute.  Not sleeping also stresses me.

H: How do you deal with your stress?

A: Sleep, exercise, I wash my feet sometimes- it’s very comforting. Your feet put up with so much shit everyday- I give them a little massage. Sometimes I have dance parties in my room in my underwear with the lights off or just go for a long walk.

H: Has the way you handle stress changed at all since coming to college?

A: Yeah, I think so because in college you are always surrounded by people.  I have had to learn to be social when I am stressed, especially as HCA. I can be stressing about something and if someone comes to my room with a problem I have to put it off and help with their problem, which is fine most of the time. I used to just shut myself in my room and not interact with people, but you can’t really do that here.

attachment styles

Lots of students have heard me talk about attachment styles, and at tea someone asked me if there might be a straightforward way to figure out what attachment style you have. I immediately thought of this table I wrote created for a book about relationships.

 

You can get a general sense of your attachment style by seeing which of the following sentiments best matches your experience. It’s normal to have some matches in all categories. If you find that one group best describes you, that indicates that that might be your attachment style. And yes, attachment style can be changed through counseling!

Hope it helps!

 

Secure Attachment

Anxious Attachment

Avoidant Attachment

I feel confident that my partner loves me as much as I love them

It’s easy for me to be affectionate with my partner.

I feel comfortable when my partner wants to be close.

I feel comfortable depending on my partner in a time of need.

I’m grateful when I receive support from others.

I know that my partner will be there for me when I need them.

I feel comfortable when my partner reveals their emotions to me.

I feel comfortable being open with my partner.

When my partner asks for space, I can pull back and give them the distance they need.

I love my partner unconditionally, but I trust them because they’ve shown me they deserve it.

Sometimes I fear that my partner doesn’t love me as much as I love themI find I’m usually more affectionate than my partner is.

I often wish my partner wanted more closeness with me.

I definitely depend on my partner in a time of need.

I rely on support from others; I’m sure I couldn’t handle things on my own.

I fear that my partner might abandon me.

If my partner does not reveal their emotions to me, I fear they may be hiding something.

I often feel that my partner does not want to be as close as I would like them to be.

When my partner asks for space, I have a hard time pulling back.

My friends tell me I accept too much, forgive too easily, and make my partner more important than myself.

Sometimes I worry that my partner loves me too much.

It’s often difficult for me to be affectionate with my partner.

I feel uncomfortable when my partner wants to be close.

I feel uncomfortable depending on my partner to meet my needs.

I have a hard time accepting support from others.

I would leave my partner before they left me.

I feel uncomfortable when my partner reveals their emotions to me.

I find it difficult to open up to my partner; I often keep secrets.

I need a lot more space than my partner does. Sometimes it seems I can’t get enough distance.

I don’t forgive easily. If someone messes up once, that’s it.